Have you ever met somebody who just doesn’t want to put the work in?
They don’t want to take the initiative and make a change in their lives. They just want you to keep telling them what to do.
But they don’t even value your time. They don’t care that you’re putting yourself out there to help them.
They’ll just keep asking for help because they don’t want to help themselves.
How many of you keep spoon-feeding these people? How many of you keep babying them in the hopes that they’ll wake up?
Eventually, they’ll see what they need to do for themselves and stop draining you.
That’s a mistake that I see so many people making. You want to love everyone and help everybody. So, you keep giving more of yourself to help people who don’t appreciate it.
You don’t change lives like that.
The old "It’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay," line doesn’t work.
It’s okay that you’re still not doing this for yourself. It’s okay that we agreed to work on something and you never showed.
It’s okay that you keep breaking promises and aren’t putting the work in.
It’s not okay.
At most, this is the sort of behaviour that you should only tolerate for a couple of weeks. But then, you’ve got to call them out on it.
Tell them that it’s not okay to just let you spoon-feed them.
Think of it as a game of tennis. If I hit the ball to you, then you’ve got to hit it back to me.
I can’t do it for you. I can’t run around the net, take your shot, and then run back around to take mine again. It’s a two-way street. If we’re going to have a game, you’ve got to play.
I want you to take a step back and think about spoon-feeding. Is there anyone in your life right now who isn’t pulling their weight?
Stop doing it for them. Stop telling them that it’s okay to not put in the work.
Because right now, they’re just draining you.
I believe in you.