I bet that the trap has caught every one of us at some point. I know it’s grabbed me a couple of times. And it’s so bloody difficult to escape from it.
Here’s how it works. When things are going well, we often forget where we’re going.
Now, what do I mean by that?
It’s the easiest thing in the world to look at your journey and feel upset that you’re not there yet. It’s especially easy when you’re just starting out. You’re not seeing the changes straight away and you forget why you’re doing the things you’re doing.
Of course you forget. You can’t see anything happening.
That’s the trap because there’s plenty of good stuff happening.
You’re making so many small changes each and every day. And over time, they’re building up and helping you to get where you need to be. But...
I used to think success meant building companies as fast as possible and making loads of money. Then I went bust. Twice.
Think about how many other businesses do the same thing. They make loads of cash and then collapse.
That’s not what success looks like.
You can apply this to weight loss too. How many people lose weight and then put it back on? You might have done it yourself.
Here’s the key – fast isn’t always best.
Solid is best. You need a solid foundation or everything will fall apart. A business without a foundation collapses. A person trying to lose weight without something solid behind their efforts puts the weight they lose back on.
Fast is temporary.
We’ve got to be so careful about how we view success. There’s so much of this win, loss, win, loss stuff. It’s all fast and you want it right now. But if you get it fast, you’re not going to keep it.
Success comes from playing the long game. It...
If you don’t change now, where will you be in five years’ time?
Where will you be in 12 months?
Let me tell you.
You’re going to be right where you are right now.
You’ve got to keep growing and changing to get to where you want to be. It’s all about mindset. Look at things differently. Change the lens and use that new perspective to figure out what you’ve got to do differently.
But I know it’s hard. That’s why I’m going to give you a little tool to help you along.
It’s simple – attach pain to the problem.
That’s the absolute key to my method. People who’ve been in my TJM tribe for a while already know this.
Ask yourself what the biggest problem is in your life. Maybe it’s booze, or drugs, or food. There’s something in your life that’s a problem for you and you want to fix it.
Figure out what it is and attach pain to it.
I had some really big wins as a young bloke.
“Success”, whatever that means, seemed to come a little bit too easily for me. Through some combination of luck, timing, and a little bit of talent, I reached some big heights early on.
And the wheels fell off.
Not just once, either. I’ve left a history of businesses that blew up and then blew away. Some of those businesses got huge, whereas others didn’t quite make it.
But they all had one thing in common.
They weren’t sustainable.
Do you want to know why?
It’s because I didn’t put the work into myself. I didn’t have personal goals and I had no idea what I needed.
I just wanted to build businesses. I had the “disease of more”, which means I always wanted more than I had.
Now here’s the secret.
Whether it’s your personal life or your business, it will expand and contract to where you are.
Whatever your level of growth as a person will ultimately dictate...
I know a little bit about success and failure.
It’s fair to say that I’ve been there for all of it.
I’ve been to the highest of the highs. At one point, people all over Australia knew my name. I’d built businesses that blew up and I made loads of money.
“Success” seemed to follow me wherever I went. But it never left me feeling fulfilled.
And of course, I’ve been there for the lowest points. I’ve had businesses collapse from underneath me and I’ve come close to ending it all on several occasions. I’ve struggled constantly with creating the personal and meaningful life I wanted.
Plus, I went through all of those struggles publicly. All of the people that knew me at my peak also saw me hit rock bottom.
I’ve plunged the depths just like I’ve reached the peaks.
Don’t for a second think I was just there for the wins.
But here’s the thing.
Every one of us is there for all of it....
A few years ago, I’d hit rock bottom. Everything was going wrong for me and I couldn’t find a way out.
I’d over complicated my life and I found myself chasing goals that weren’t ever going to fulfil me.
My mindset was all wrong.
I wasn’t doing the things that made me happy. Instead, I kept chasing the almighty dollar, no matter how miserable I was making myself in the process.
Even when my business was doing well, my life wasn’t.
Mentally, I hit rock bottom. I burned out and struggled to find any sense of purpose.
Maybe that sounds familiar to you. Perhaps whatever goals you’ve set for yourself aren’t actually helping you to achieve happiness. Or, your mindset is such that even thinking about reaching your goals makes you anxious.
Do you know what worked for me?
I managed to pull myself out of the darkness by just taking things back to...
It’s great to be alive isn’t it, but for many of us it wasn't always this way. I know what it is like to be in the darkness thinking that you will never come out.
When we begin to shift the "stinking thinking" and change the way we look at things, the things we look at change (Wayne Dyer interview) Video Link. We begin to step into the light. But it takes time and work.
I spent many years in the dark thinking that my life was destined to be one of sorrow and sadness, regret and fear. And I am here to tell you today that you can change all of that. If I can, you can, if you are willing to commit.
I had the gift of desperation so I began the journey of change, looking inside myself for the answers rather than blaming the outside world. When we are in the dark we medicate with food and alcohol. We use these numbing agents to give us temporary relief.
There comes a time we you decide enough is enough and you make the decision to change. Give some thought today to...
I just wanted to take a moment to wish you the very best for the coming year and to say how proud and inspired I am of you. And also to thank you for trusting me with your health.
In 2018 you made the decision to change and you should be incredibly proud of yourself. You had the courage to try again, to get back up and enter the arena once more. Most do not!
That is courage. The hardest part of any growth journey is taking that initial step. You did that this year. Please do not brush this off, for this is where success is found. The result is now merely a coefficient of time. At some stage in 2018 you dug deep and committed to you again and for that I have so much respect.
It is hard to change your life, that is why so few engage in it, preferring to sit in the grandstand and mock those who do. As the sun sets on 2018 please remember what you achieved this year, please be proud.
Regardless of where you are and where you want to be, you made the decision and took action this...
Happy Tuesday. See you in 30 minutes for the LIVE. Following on from last night here are 6 habits of people who live well.
They play the long game
It is not what you can do in 6 months you should be focused on but rather where you can be in 6 years and the person you will become. Successful people focus on the long game, not the quick wins. Fast weight loss is great but where will you be in 5+ years. Get those habits locked in now to guarantee your future success
They focus on today
The working unit of your life is now yet all too few engage in it. They are always too worried about tomorrow. Get clear on your goals and then go deep in the process.
They understand compounding
Nothing good happens fast. You have to stick at something long enough to get the compounding effect. Every professional was once an amateur starting out and it is the same with your weight loss journey. We get good at what we do but if we keep chopping and changing we can never get better.
You must stay...
If you're feeling flat or low, or perhaps hosting your own pity party for one, you have to check out this incredible Australian, Stacey Copas.
At age 12 Stacey suffered a horrific accident leaving her a quadriplegic, but in true champion fashion, that's where her success journey began. Out of her pain she found strength. She is incredible. Please read her book HOW TO BE RESILIENT. THE BLUEPRINT FOR GETTING RESULTS WHEN THINGS DON'T GO TO PLAN.
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