But now it’s time to switch on and get yourself focused again.
That means you’ve got to plug back into your successful mindset.
Let me help with that. If you’ve been keeping track of my Facebook page, you’ll have seen me post an old clip of Oprah Winfrey.
It’s from back in the 80s before she became the huge superstar that she is now. Back then, she was looking to be the first African-American woman to host her own talk show.
If you watch the interview, pay attention to the interviewer's tone. Hear that condescension in his voice?
He’s a typical naysayer.
Every time Oprah says something to him he brings it back round to what he really wants to talk about.
"What if it doesn’t work?"
I bet that the trap has caught every one of us at some point. I know it’s grabbed me a couple of times. And it’s so bloody difficult to escape from it.
Here’s how it works. When things are going well, we often forget where we’re going.
Now, what do I mean by that?
It’s the easiest thing in the world to look at your journey and feel upset that you’re not there yet. It’s especially easy when you’re just starting out. You’re not seeing the changes straight away and you forget why you’re doing the things you’re doing.
Of course you forget. You can’t see anything happening.
That’s the trap because there’s plenty of good stuff happening.
You’re making so many small changes each and every day. And over time, they’re building up and helping you to get where you need to be. But...
That’s when the weight of the world weighs so heavy on your shoulders that the only thing that makes you feel better is to eat. You give in to your cravings and you just gorge yourself on so much food.
I know it’s a problem for a lot of people. Because let’s face it. You’re not going to find yourself 40 or 50 kilos overweight if you’re not binge eating to some extent. And usually, there’s an emotional issue that’s causing you to binge.
So what does it all mean for you if you want to break that cycle and start losing weight?
It’s all about accepting your own vulnerability and digging deeper into yourself. You’re looking for your pain point.
That’s the one bit of darkness inside that’s causing you to go and medicate yourself with food, drink, or whatever addiction you might have.
You have to confront that pain point. If you don’t, everything else you do is just a Band-Aid over...
I used to think success meant building companies as fast as possible and making loads of money. Then I went bust. Twice.
Think about how many other businesses do the same thing. They make loads of cash and then collapse.
That’s not what success looks like.
You can apply this to weight loss too. How many people lose weight and then put it back on? You might have done it yourself.
Here’s the key – fast isn’t always best.
Solid is best. You need a solid foundation or everything will fall apart. A business without a foundation collapses. A person trying to lose weight without something solid behind their efforts puts the weight they lose back on.
Fast is temporary.
We’ve got to be so careful about how we view success. There’s so much of this win, loss, win, loss stuff. It’s all fast and you want it right now. But if you get it fast, you’re not going to keep it.
Success comes from playing the long game. It...
The more weight loss becomes a by-product in your life, the more weight you’re going to lose.
Getting rid of your problems and making changes in your life are the real goals.
So here’s what I want you to do.
Grab a piece of paper and write down the numbers 1 to 5. Now, list five things that you want to improve.
Get really specific here. For example, one of your things might be to eat less sugar. Or you might want to consume less caffeine. Maybe you want to knock alcohol on the head.
These five things can be anything as long as they’re specific to you.
Once you’ve got your list, attach a rating to each of your five things. Just a number from 1 to 10 to describe the amount of pain this problem causes you. The higher the number, the more pain.
If you’re following my 21-day plan, you’ve done this already. If...
You see that home button, right. No matter what you do with your computer, you can use that home button to get back to where you started.
Look at your other devices. They’ve all got the same thing. Your phone, your tablet, or whatever you have has a home button.
Where am I going with this?
I want you to create a home setting for your mind. And here’s where that home setting takes you:
Highest and best.
That’s your default. It’s the place you’re going to come back to whenever life leads you anywhere.
Maybe your problems have knocked you off course. Maybe you’re experiencing some pain. You’ve binged on food or something and feel a bit off.
It can be enough to derail all of your weight loss efforts. Those feelings of guilt for going off track can wreak havoc on your mindset.
Just press the mental home button. Get back to where you need to be – highest and best.
If you don’t change now, where will you be in five years’ time?
Where will you be in 12 months?
Let me tell you.
You’re going to be right where you are right now.
You’ve got to keep growing and changing to get to where you want to be. It’s all about mindset. Look at things differently. Change the lens and use that new perspective to figure out what you’ve got to do differently.
But I know it’s hard. That’s why I’m going to give you a little tool to help you along.
It’s simple – attach pain to the problem.
That’s the absolute key to my method. People who’ve been in my TJM tribe for a while already know this.
Ask yourself what the biggest problem is in your life. Maybe it’s booze, or drugs, or food. There’s something in your life that’s a problem for you and you want to fix it.
Figure out what it is and attach pain to it.
How you look at the world has a huge impact on your mindset. If you’re all doom and gloom all of the time, you’re going to struggle to be who you want to be. You’re certainly not going to lose weight. Your head isn’t right and you’re not going to stick with it.
Getting a little perspective can help.
Let me tell you a quick story.
A couple of weeks ago, I was in the gym getting ready to do my thing. But my foot just wouldn’t stop bothering me. It felt sore all of the time and I was about ready to pack it in and go home.
Woe is me and my foot, right?
Then I spy this absolute legend in the gym who’s got an amputated leg. He wasn’t complaining. This bloke was just getting on with it and pushing himself.
There I was sulking about a sore foot and this bloke’s doing more than me on one leg!
Boom! It hit me like a sledgehammer.
It’s all about perspective.
I could go into some big sales spiel to tell you. But I think it’s better to hear how it all works from someone who’s benefiting from it right now.
With that in mind, let me introduce you to Michelle.
Now Michelle’s not new to my programs. Back in 2015, she started losing weight with the Trim For Life app.
It worked for a while. Michelle managed to drop 15 kilograms with the app.
Unfortunately, life got in the way.
So the weight came back.
A few years later and she’s on The Jowett Method.
In one week, she’d dropped 3.8 kilos. And she has a goal of dropping 50 kilos within 12 months.
But what’s different this time around? How is Michelle going to stick with it when she fell off before?
She says it comes down to a few things.
Firstly, she’s looked inwards and realised that she has a drinking problem. In the past, she’s spent time with the wrong people, which...
I had some really big wins as a young bloke.
“Success”, whatever that means, seemed to come a little bit too easily for me. Through some combination of luck, timing, and a little bit of talent, I reached some big heights early on.
And the wheels fell off.
Not just once, either. I’ve left a history of businesses that blew up and then blew away. Some of those businesses got huge, whereas others didn’t quite make it.
But they all had one thing in common.
They weren’t sustainable.
Do you want to know why?
It’s because I didn’t put the work into myself. I didn’t have personal goals and I had no idea what I needed.
I just wanted to build businesses. I had the “disease of more”, which means I always wanted more than I had.
Now here’s the secret.
Whether it’s your personal life or your business, it will expand and contract to where you are.
Whatever your level of growth as a person will ultimately dictate...